There are times when we have unwanted feelings and emotions that we do not understand. We can’t identify the exact cause or the contributing factors, but we know that we are irritable, angry, sad or just plan confused. The task during those times is not always to figure out the root of the feeling. Revelation does not usually provide the highly sought permanent resolution. It often leads to destructive thoughts, such as; I know the cause and the problem so why can’t I resolve it now? Most often the useful task is to shift our focus by shifting our thoughts and reach for a better feeling. It is from the space of feeling better that we are then able to attract situations and people that support our desire to experience joy. The shift can be prompted by something as simple as music, meditation, a conversation with a positive friend, an intense or welcomed sexual adventure. Your task is to give yourself permission to welcome the shift without fear, judgment and doubt. Embrace the uncertainty of the cause while committing to the decision to reach for a better day.
Picking up the pieces is not really picking up the pieces…or is it? All pieces, including the small ones, sharp ones and the gigantic ones are parts of your whole. Picking up the pieces is really your soul’s opportunity to help mature and grow you in ways that only experience can. We often repeat the same mistakes over and over again, but each time is not in vein. It takes you one step closer to the realization that you must do something differently and that is the start of permanent change. So try not to beat yourself up with negative thoughts, words and actions. Instead, realize that you are getting closer and closer to the space you desire, and it is only the need for you to master this step that causes the same mistake to persist. There may be pain and even tears, but in the end your soul will strengthen you. So pay close attention to your patterns and develop a plan of action when the triggers that contribute to your mistakes surface. It’s time to grow. It’s time to change. It’s time to move forward!
Take a moment to consider the infinite possibilities if the following statement is true.
” You are a soul having a human experience.” Think what could happen if you just step aside!
Understanding what you want and authenticity of your desires are more important than understanding “how” you will ultimately get what you want. Goals usually represent something we want to achieve. But the question is, what is the driving force behind your goals? Understanding this aspect of your desires will help determine if you are in alignment with your soul’s journey or if you or concerned with pleasing external others for internal acceptance. This is not to say that others will not be pleased with your accomplishments, but your decision to achieve your goals cannot be for the purpose of external praise. As you begin to think about your “why” you may experience thoughts that some may label “selfish.” For this exercise, ignore those thoughts and quickly move on to the next positive thought. Get a piece of paper and fold it in half. On one side write down all of the goals that you want to achieve during the next five years. On the other side provide a detailed description of why you want to reach that goal. For example, if your goal is to be debt free, your “why” section may say something to the effect of “I want to be debt free so that I can have the freedom to make decisions about my life based on what I love to do instead of what I need to do. If your goal is to lose weight your “why” section may say, “I want lose weight so that I can be healthy and have more energy each day.” Another reason could be, “I want to live to see my children and grandchildren grow up.” Whatever your “why” you must be very clear about why you have selected each goal, and none of them should demonstrate the need for someone else to validate you. Once you feel confident about your “whys” be careful to avoid becoming overwhelmed with how it will all work. Often you will not know “how” you will achieve the goals you have identified, but if you are clear about your reasons “why” your personal energy is more likely to align with the Universe/God/Higher Power/ the Leader of your Soul. Once you are in alignment with your Source the “how” is in great hands! The final step of this exercise is to tear the paper in half. Place the side with your goals in a safe place. Take the remaining side and put it somewhere that will allow you to read it every day or throughout the day. In three months read the side of the paper with your goals, and marvel at how much closer you are!!!
Self love is the most powerful and purist of loves because it gives you the capacity to genuinely and deeply love others. You are only able to give what you have…nothing more and nothing less. This week take a day to ponder self love and what that means to you. Is it a foreign concept or very intimate detail in your life? Let the love that you share with yourself and others free your soul to be what it has come to this earth to be! If you do not feel self love do not worry. It is there eagerly waiting for you to remove the negative habits and self talk that do not allow it to shine through and guide you to your personal freedom. Choose this week to begin looking for the evidence that you love yourself.
When your committment to your emerging self has taken two steps back take a moment and ponder the words of an unknown poet.
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a failure turns about, When he might have won had he stuck it out; Don’t give up though the pace seems slow– You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than, It seems to a faint and faltering man, Often the struggler has given up, When he might have captured the victor’s cup, And he learned too late when the night slipped down, How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out– The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far, So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit– It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.
- Author unknown
The road to greatness can be a lonely one, but if you decide to make it through you will see that it was well worth the time spent in solitude. When you embark upon the authentic work of your soul you must to be prepared to stay focused! When your usual family and friends do not understand the decisions that you are making, you must find strength and courage in knowing that your focus is not to make them understand! This may feel uncomfortable, and that is okay because it is during the uncomfortable moments in your life that you experience growth. As you bravely walk each step of this journey, it is critical that you begin relying upon and trusting in your soul’s guidance. This can be very unearthing if you have not had sufficient practice, and most of us have not, this is your time! You have a purpose for being on this earth at this designated time and in the exact place that you are in your life right now. There have been no mistakes only skill building exercises to prepare you for your path. I am sure that you have heard the saying that everything you need is already within you. Your life’s journey has helped you to gain the “everything that you need.” Everything you have experienced in your life was necessary and tailor made just for you. Yes, I did say EVERYTHING! Including the good, the bad, the ugly, the “unfair”, the planned and unplanned.
Now, the start of this journey is a time for silence because it is within that silence that you will began to hear and develop trust. Although you will want to share your creative ideas and moments of inspiration with others…THIS IS NOT THE TIME TO SHARE. In the beginning your trust and belief in your ability to fulfill the work your soul has revealed to you is fragile and can be shattered by an unexpectedly expectant response from someone else. You will want to believe that if you share your wonderful path with your brother, sister, friend, mother and/or father they are going to say, “wow, that’s great! You will be very successful…!” Here is the problem. Even if they said those exact words you will likely read into their tone, body language, word selection and what was implied but not stated. Based on their actual or implied input you will arrive at a conclusion based on your history and relationship with the person(s). Although you may walk away with an accurate or inaccurate interpretation of the conversation, this process will likely contribute to self-doubt and questioning. Neither of which is needed at this stage of the game. So take a deep breath and prepare for the wonderful gifts that come in the silence of greatness. Until next week, take many moments to just breathe!
Every January like moths to a flame people all over the world decide to make new year’s resolutions, and by Valentine’s Day most of those resolutions have found a safe home behind the running shoes in the back of closets and in the back minds of most. Now it is March, and it is to take stock of the New Year’s resolutions you made on January 1, 2013. If you are still committed to and fulfilling your resolutions…CONGRATULATIONS! You have made it further than most. However, if you have forgotten that you made resolutions or if you have gradually given up on your resolutions then it is clear that this it is time for you to do something different. So, instead of mentally beating yourself up let’s say to hell with the common annual resolutions such as exercising, eating right, and finding true love. Instead, lets choose to say hello to the idea that it is time to put in the energy and the effort to get your thinking, beliefs and emotional energy right! This decision will produce sustained progress in all of the areas of your life where you have identified the need to create new year’s resolutions! The life you desire is within your reach…just stretch a little and stay tuned for upcoming posts describing the steps we will take on this journey together!